Showing posts with label Adoption. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Adoption. Show all posts

Thursday, June 2, 2011

You are NOT the Father!

The Nightmare
If you've ever watched daytime talk shows, you've witnessed a nightmare.  A Mom confesses to cheating and reveals that the Dad might not be the genetic-father.  Sadly, these stories rarely end well.  The host pulls the DNA results out of an envelope and proclaims, "You are NOT the Father!"  

The Dad had no idea that he was raising another man's child and may have even been ordered to pay child support for years before being embarrassed on national TV.

Old Law
The long standing tradition in Texas in such situations has been to require Dad to continue paying the child-support even after such a revelation.  

There was a small exception that allowed another man to step in his place as the child's father, but often the Mom didn't know, or wouldn't tell, who she suspected the actual genetic-father was.  

Basically, the Dad was duped and was required to pay child support on someone else's child for 18+ years.

New Law
Well a couple of weeks ago, May 12, 2011, the 82nd Texas Legislature made a HUGE change in this area of the law under SB 785; effective immediately.  

This bill has now become law and basically says that if the Dad finds out that he might not be the father, gets a DNA test that excludes him as the father, then he can have the parent-child relationship terminated and is no longer obligated to pay child support.  WOW!

Exceptions
Obviously there are some exceptions to follow this monumental change to the law.  If the father adopted the child, participated in assisted reproduction, or he was the intended father under a gestational agreement then he can't ditch his parental-duties.  

These exceptions are obviously necessary because he isn't surprised that he isn't the genetic-father and this isn't intended to be a Baby Lemon Law.

Filing Deadline
Generally, this suit must be filed within 1 year of Dad finding out that he might not be the genetic-father, however, that requirement is quite relaxed right now and won't take effect until September 1, 2012.  

Basically, if a Dad finds out he may not be the genetic-father ANY time before September 1, 2012, then he can file the Termination Suit up until September 1, 2013.

Public Reaction
I know some of you may become outraged and proclaim that this law hurts children and mothers because it takes away a much needed source of child-support.  Some are even referring to it as the "Bastard Bill" because it allows a child to be left without a father.  

I can't tell you how to feel about it, but if you look at it from the Dad's perspective, he has been lied to and been forced to pay child-support for a child that he didn't even father.

However, you know as well as I do that there is a difference between a Dad and a genetic-father.  This new law doesn't just dismiss a Dad that wants to be a part of that child's life.  

On rare occasions, that very same tragic story on that daytime talk-show does have a happy ending when the Dad says, "I don't care what those results say, that's my son/daughter and I'm not going anywhere.

Conclusion
Since this is a brand new law that, as far as I can tell, hasn't had a chance to see the inside of a courtroom yet, it remains to be seen how the courts are going to interpret it.  The above is my opinion on the matter and is only meant for informational purposes and not as legal advice.  If you think this law applies to you, I strongly recommend speaking with an attorney instead of trying to pursue it on your own.


--Authored by Matthew L. Harris, Esq.,

Matthew Harris Law - Family Law Division
1001 Main Street, Suite 806, Lubbock, Texas, 79401-3322
(806) 318-8482 


Monday, May 23, 2011

Can I Adopt an Adult?


When you hear the word "adoption," the first image in your head is likely one that involves a small child being introduced into a new home.  Perhaps you imagine an aunt or a relative adopting a family member whose parent's need time to organize their lives.  But what we're talking about today are the adoptions of adults.  Yes, we are talking about grown-ups and not even necessarily adults with special needs.  Full-grown, fully capable members of the community that may even have children of their own already.

In today's world, it's a harsh reality that our society has a high divorce rate; 40-50% depending on the study.  After that divorce, about 75% of those couples remarry, not to each other; and most of those second marriages create a step-parent scenario for either mom, dad, or both. 

I'm not going to bore you with any more statistics or science (aka black magic) but ultimately, many children find themselves living more years with their step-parent than they did with their biological parent.  The same is also true with foster-parents.

After living most of their formative years with the step-parent, more and more children are finding that they have formed a stronger parent-child relationship with their step-parent than with their biological parent.  To further unite and strengthen the familial ties in infant situations, the families seek an adoption.  Many people do not realize that when a child turns 18 years old and is no longer a "child," adoption is still possible.

Just as with infants, step-parents seek adoption of their adult step-children to unite and strengthen their familial ties.  The adult children desire to legally cement the relationship with the step-parent that stepped in when their biological parent abandoned them instead of forever living under the shadow of an absent parent.  You're probably wondering what kind of paperwork nightmare pursuing such a solution might create.

In fact, the legalities behind processing the adoption of an adult are less complicated than the adoption of a minor child.  Our Courts focus on the "best interest of the child" and strive to protect those minor children that can't protect themselves.  However, with an adult there is little need for that protection since an adult can make his/her own decisions.  In this day and age, with all the choices we can make, why shouldn't you be able to decide whether the person that has always been there for you must preface their title with "step?"

Statistically speaking (okay, sorry I lied about not bringing it up again), it is most likely that you have a step-parent, you are a step-parent, or both.  For some, the above discussion about a bond with a step-parent being stronger than with the biological parent is simply unimaginable, but for many of you, I've just described your parental relationship to a tee. 

If you want more information about an Adult-Adoption, whether you're the "child," the step-parent, or the foster-parent, contact your attorney to find out what steps you need to take to get started.  No attorney can tell you if this is the right decision for you and your family, but your attorney should ensure that you are able to make an informed decision once you know your options.  

***Special Thanks to those that participated in the poll for this Reader-Selected Entry on Facebook and Twitter, especially Kama Lawrence, J.D., for being the first voter***


--Authored by Matthew L. Harris, Esq.,

Matthew Harris Law - Family Law Division
1001 Main Street, Suite 806, Lubbock, Texas, 79401-3322, 
(806) 318-8482